The most important thing you can do to help with any of these issues is to tell someone at your school that you are a young carer. If they do not know about it, they will not realise why you may sometimes struggle with attendance, find it hard to concentrate in lessons, are late or don’t always hand in your homework on time. You might find yourself often getting into trouble for these things, but if they realise the reason for them, your teachers will be more understanding and sympathetic.
There are lots of reasons why some young carers don’t tell their school that they look after someone. Sometimes they don’t want to draw attention to their role or are embarrassed about it. Sometimes they think there is nothing that can be done to help or that the school won’t be interested. Sometimes they worry that they or their family will get into trouble.
But in fact, your school or college will not judge you for your role, they will be keen to know about it, you won’t get in any trouble and there are actually lots of things that they can do to help. Remember that teachers are there to support you to achieve as much as you can at school, so they will help you in any way they can. You may even be surprised how often your school already deals with young carers: as many as 1 in 12 pupils in secondary schools have caring responsibilities.  The school may even have what is known a Young Carers Operational Lead, someone whose job it is to look out for you and make sure you are supported.
There are lots of different ways you can tell your school. You could talk to a trusted teacher, school nurse or other adult, tell them about your caring responsibilities and ask for their help. Or if you would rather, you could ask an adult in your life to write a letter or phone the school for you. A good person for them to get in touch with would be your Head of Year.