Many carers often find it challenging to juggle their own health needs alongside their caring responsibilities. This hidden inequality features in Carers UK’s “State of Caring” report, which outlines that 40-50% of carers are dealing with health conditions while caring for others. One of these amazing people is Sarah. In her touching blog, Sarah opens up about what motivates and inspires her to push through the tough days.
My name is Sarah. I'm a full-time carer for my husband, Jonathan, who lost both his legs to meningitis when he was just 19. We live in Lincolnshire with our two children, Maisie and Harry, and our beloved cockapoos, Waffle and Oakley. Our days are a mix of routine, challenges, and moments of joy.
I became Jonathan's carer in 2008 when we first met. My role covers everything – making tea and breakfast, managing the laundry, tidying the house, and homeschooling the kids. I also help Jonathan with daily tasks, like taking his medication and assisting him with showering and getting in and out of the car.
Jonathan is incredibly strong, but I can always sense when he's struggling. That’s when I know I need to step in and encourage him to rest.
My health isn’t always great either – I have fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, and PTSD. Some days, I’m drained, but I do my best to push through for my family.
Being a carer isn’t just physical – it’s emotional. Some days, I’m proud of what I do, knowing I’m making a difference. Other days, I feel invisible, as if my needs come last. The feelings of isolation, exhaustion, and guilt can feel overwhelming. But I remind myself that doing my best is enough.
One of my biggest passions is football; I'm a huge Lincoln City FC fan, and I dream of meeting my favourite players, especially Freddie Draper! These moments of joy, no matter how small, help me stay grounded.
We don’t have specialised equipment at home, like hoists. I manage all the cooking, but I’m thankful when Maisie steps in to help - she loves it. Occasionally, I steal a moment for myself when I visit the hairdresser – it’s a little slice of bliss in my busy life.
Sarah, who has been receiving support from Carers First, since 2018, says:
“you are not alone. Seeking support is not a sign of weakness – It is essential.”
I have found comfort in online communities and Carers First support groups and local activities, where I can share my experiences with people who genuinely understand. Organisations like Carers First offer practical advice, helplines, and emotional support for those who need it. The charity has been a lifeline for me.
“Even something as simple as a short walk or a cup of tea in peace can make a difference.”
This is just a glimpse into my life as a carer - a role filled with love, struggles, and dreams for the future. It is not always easy, but I take it with an open heart.
If you are a carer and can relate to Sarah's story, Carers First is here to support you. We provide personalised advice and support to help you thrive in your role. Get in touch today to learn more.
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