Sophie gives an insight into her life as a young adult carer and speaks on the importance of accepting help and support, as doing so has enriched her life and given her more opportunities than she could have imagined.
“My name is Sophie, I’m currently 21, and I care for my mum, dad and little siblings. There are too many medical conditions to sit here and name them all, but the major ones are depression, diabetes and hypertension with my mum and dad both having these (only mum has diabetes, phew). My little sister is suspected to have autism; she is 8 so communication is key as well as trying to keep cool during the hard times. My other younger brother Toby also helps where he can, and he is also excited to be hopefully joining Carers First too.
My journey with caring started at the age of 13 and at the time I didn’t realise I was a young carer, I just thought I was helping out, until it got to the point of breaking and I spoke to teacher at my school who gave me loads of advice and help. So, one main point is to talk, open up as keeping it hidden can build up and eventually hurt you in the long run. Anyway, after I left school, I was given the option to join Carers First Young Adult Carers and I'm so glad I did. The support they provide is incredible, especially Amanda :)
As a carer it is really hard to go out and socialise with what I call “normal people”, but through Carers First I went out of my comfort zone by going to events they offer. Some just on my own, some with family and I realised that it is such an amazing and safe place to talk about everything that life throws. Honestly, I cannot thank them enough.
Through the last couple of years I haven't been very good within myself, with not only looking after my family's health but my own as well and being able to go out on the days out and activities has just brought me comfort in the fact I’m not alone and there are so many people out there wanting to help. I've walked alpacas, been out for afternoon tea, played unlimited arcade games for hours, bowling and burgers, even been to a Christmas party. None of that would be possible without the support of Carers First, again thanks Amanda.
If you can take anything away from this is that you're not alone even if you think you are and just talk about it. And with the support given I’ve even had the confidence to get my own place. It's nothing special and I'm only a two-minute walk away from my parents so if they ever need anything I can be there within seconds.
Thank you for taking the time to read/listen to this.
Peace out,
Sophie”
Having a community and network of support is so fundamental to young people caring for someone or, in Sophie’s case, multiple people. Having the right tools and professionals there to guide, offer opportunities, and help them to connect with others is what really builds their confidence and enables them to feel part of something important. This Carers Week, building carer friendly communities is more essential than ever, and we are proud to be a part of that for our young adult carers.
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